As I worked on overcoming my stage fright many years ago, one of the most challenging issues was my self-consciousness and self-doubt. It was only when I shifted this mindset to one of focusing on authentically expressing myself did my fear of public speaking begin to diminish.This is the same shift that I have used in my coaching practice to help thousands overcome their fears. Here are 10 tips to help you on your journey to becoming a more fearless speaker or performer:

1. Focus on Your Message, Not Yourself

Instead of worrying about how you look or sound, concentrate on what you are sharing. Ask yourself, “What do I want my audience to feel, learn, or experience?” Shifting your focus to your message helps take the pressure off yourself.

2. Re-frame Nervousness as Excitement

Your body’s response to anxiety (racing heart, adrenaline rush) is the same as excitement. Instead of thinking, “I’m so nervous,” tell yourself, “I’m excited to share this!” This mental shift transforms fear into energy.

3. Use Movement to Channel Energy

Self-consciousness often makes you stiff. Instead of freezing up, use natural movement—walk, gesture, or express through your body. Movement helps release nervous tension and makes your performance feel more engaging and dynamic.

4. Connect with Your Material Emotionally

Whether you’re giving a speech, singing, or acting, deeply connect with your content. When you feel something, your audience will too. Perform as if you’re speaking to one person who truly needs to hear your message.

“Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out.” ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

• Do you dream of presenting or performing without fear but get stuck in “What if” thinking?
• Do you hold back from taking bold steps because of what others might think?
• Do you find yourself always preparing but never fully stepping out?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you’re not alone. So many speakers and performers—public speakers, actors, dancers, singers, comedians—struggle with the fear of looking foolish, making mistakes, or being judged. I’ve been there myself.

Let me tell you a story.

The Night I Learned to Dance

It was during my Doctoral Internship at a hospital in Georgia when a group of nurses and interns invited me out for the evening. After a long, draining day, I thought, Why not? A little dinner and laughter sounded like just what I needed.

But when we pulled up to one of the hottest dance clubs in the city, panic set in. You see, I had never danced before. Sure, I’d done a little Greek dancing at family weddings, but a packed nightclub with pulsating disco music? No way.

My overthinking had always “protected” me from looking ridiculous on a dance floor.

There was no escape. No car to leave in. No way out.

As we begin the journey into the New Year, it is an ideal time to re-focus your attention on taking charge of becoming a more effective and productive speaker. Here are 10 tips to make this your best year yet.

1. Know Your Audience Deeply

Understand your audience’s needs, preferences, and concerns. Use surveys, feedback, or research to tailor your message to resonate with them.

2. Master Storytelling

People connect with stories more than information and data. Create compelling narratives that highlight key points and evoke emotion to leave a lasting impact.

3. Focus on Authenticity

Audiences crave authenticity. Share personal anecdotes, speak from the heart, and let your unique personality shine through.

These days, video content is everywhere – virtual meetings, online presentations, vlogs, social media stories – you name it. But let’s be honest: being in front of the camera can feel super intimidating.

You might feel awkward, overly critical of how you look or sound, or just unsure of what to do. The good news? You’re not stuck with this anxiety. With a few mindset shifts and some practice, you can go from dreading the camera to feeling comfortable (and maybe even enjoying it).

Here’s how to start overcoming your camera anxiety:

1. Understand Where the Fear Comes From

First, ask yourself: What’s making you nervous? Are you worried about looking or sounding awkward? Do you think people will judge you? Are you afraid of making mistakes? Pinpointing the root of your anxiety can make it easier to address. For example, If you’re worried about judgment, remind yourself that most people are too busy thinking about themselves to critique you.

2. It’s All About Mindset

Instead of seeing the camera as a source of stress, think of it as a way to connect with others. Whether you’re sharing a message, capturing a memory, or simply showing up for a meeting, the camera is your tool for communication. Shift your focus from “How do I look?” to “What do I want to share?”

Have you ever felt like you’re not good enough, even when all the evidence says otherwise? Like you’re just waiting for someone to figure out you’re a fraud?

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. What you’re feeling might be imposter syndrome – a sneaky mindset that can hold you back from fully embracing your success.

In my coaching work, I’ve found imposter syndrome to be one of the biggest barriers to reaching your full potential, whether it’s at work, in a creative endeavor, or in life overall. So, I want to talk about what imposter syndrome really is, how it can impact you, and most importantly, how to break free from it to unlock your best self.

What is imposter syndrome, really?

Think about this: You give a well-received presentation, crush a big project, or create something you’re truly proud of. But instead of celebrating, you catch yourself wondering, “Did I really deserve this?” You might chalk it up to luck or assume people are overestimating you.

That’s imposter syndrome – feeling like you’re faking it and fearing you’ll be found out, even when you’ve clearly earned your achievements.

The Holiday Season is a time for joy! Yet, this can be a most difficult time of the year for many. Stress, pressure, loneliness, expectations, depression, hurts and financial burdens rob many of the joy of the season.

With Christmas seeming to come earlier each year (ornaments on sale in July!) and the mad rush of traffic and the scramble to buy the ‘perfect’ gifts, the “Happy Holidays” often turn out to be anything other than joyful or happy!

It has been said that “we are in danger of losing Christmas.” This is even true for those who are faith-based who, in the rush of things, lose that “glad feeling of happiness and delight” that should be at the center of the holidays.

The challenge is that in order to handle the unique pressure and stresses that accompany this time of year, we need to maintain a ‘balanced life.”

Problems that occur in our desire to experience joy are when our “whole being” is out of balance.

Let’s take a quick look at some very practical steps that we can take towards putting the joy back into Christmas:

1) Prepare Your Physical Self for the Holidays

~ Eat wisely – importance of healthful, nourishing foods (although a very hard time to diet!)

~ Rest appropriately – set boundaries on shopping, visiting and decorating – give your body time to refresh itself!

~ Exercise – “not something you spend time doing, but rather something you invest time in”

~ Strive for ‘Stress-Free’ living – Give yourself permission to slow down and enjoy yourself; practice positive self-talk; avoid comparing yourself to others; see yourself as a valuable child of God; give yourself permission to take risks

2. Evaluate Your Soul (Your emotional/relational self)

The holiday season is upon us, yet, for so many, that means becoming stressed and even anxious when in social situations. Instead of it being a time of joy, just being around others can lead to anxious moments and even avoidance of events and opportunities. The desire to feel accepted while staying present in the moment can conflict with the fear of doing and saying just the right thing.

The following strategies have helped me over the years to manage and overcome holiday stress and social anxiety. Whether it’s participating in holiday activities, being around crowds in the mall or while at a stressful family gathering, these ten tips can help you can navigate social situations more comfortably and with less anxiety.

1. Set Realistic Goals: Instead of aiming for perfection, set achievable goals for social interactions. Celebrate small victories, like initiating a conversation or speaking up in a group, to boost confidence gradually.

2. Practice Positive Self-Talk: Challenge negative thoughts. Quiet your inner, critical self-talk. Replace anxious thoughts with more rational and positive ones. Remind yourself of past successes and focus on your strengths.

3. Breathe and Relax: Practice deep breathing or mindfulness exercises to calm your mind. These techniques can help regulate your body’s response to anxiety, making it easier to cope in social settings.