Public speaking can be a nerve-wracking experience for many people. As you stand in front of an audience, your body language can speak volumes even before you utter a word. One aspect of body language that often leaves speakers perplexed is what to do with their hands.

Should they be kept at their sides, gesturing wildly, or hidden behind a podium? In this post, we’ll explore the dos and don’ts of hand gestures during public speaking to help you convey confidence and connect with your audience.

As I sit down to write these words, I can’t help but wrestle with the challenge of staying totally in the moment. I am in the process of recording a new Master Class for the Fearless Performer Academy, yet I find my mind going into the future, focusing on anxious thoughts and fears of it going just right..

It’s a struggle we all go through every now and then, especially when we are anxious about presenting or performing in any stressful situation.

Our minds just love to remind us about everything coming up, especially things we perceive as negative, and the worries that seem to be looming on the horizon.

It’s like the future is constantly waving its arms, trying to steal our attention!

But here’s the thing: when we get all caught up in thinking about the future, we end up missing out on what’s happening right here and now.

It’s pretty clear that we can’t be in two places at once, right? So, when we’re living in the future, it’s like we’re on a one-way train to the land of “What if?”

“To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence.”– Mark Twain

As a Performance Psychologist and Anxiety Coach, I totally understand that being on stage or in front of a camera can make performers wonder: should they stick to what’s comfortable or dive into the unknown? It’s like a fork in the road, and each choice has its own perks for personal growth and success. So, let’s talk about finding that sweet spot between playing it safe and taking daring risks as a performer.

The Safe Haven of Playing it Safe

“The greatest risk is not taking any risks. In a world that is changing quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” – Mark Zuckerberg

From my vantage point as a Performance Coach, playing it safe often comes from that fear of stumbling or facing rejection. It’s like sticking to your comfort zone, doing what you know works, and not straying from the familiar. While it might feel like a security blanket, it can actually slow down your creative spark and block your progress. Sure, you might end up with a performance that’s predictable, but will it truly light up the crowd or push you to your limits?

Now, I get that playing it safe shields you from those immediate bumps, but it can also keep you blind to the chances that come with trying something fresh. When you shy away from risks, evolving and standing out in a competitive field might become a tough challenge.

The Thrill of Making It Happen

“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” – Roy T. Bennett

On the flip side, going for it as a performer means leaving your comfort zone behind and embracing the unknown. It’s about diving into new ideas, testing uncharted waters, and pushing your limits. Yeah, it’s a bit nerve-wracking, but trust me, it can lead to performances that leave people buzzing.

Choosing to make things happen also means cozying up to failure. Believe me, failure isn’t the end of the world – it’s like a stepping stone to getting even better. In fact, stumbling a bit here and there helps you learn, refine your skills, and build up that toughness you need to thrive.

Balancing Act for Your Journey

“Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.” – Benjamin Franklin

As your friendly coach, I’m all about finding that safe zone – not too comfy, not too wild. It’s essential to give your comfort zone some care, but don’t let it become a comfort trap. Leaping into the unknown without a plan can lead to ho-hum performances or unneeded stress.

So, here’s the deal: find ways to gently, but firmly, nudge yourself out of your comfortable cocoon. Take calculated risks that match your goals and dreams. And, don’t let failure trip you up. It’s not a dead end; it’s a stepping stone. Use those missteps to refine your skills and supercharge your confidence.

In a Nutshell

In the world of performance, it’s your call – playing it safe or making it happen? As a coach, I’m all for embracing Eleanor Roosevelt’s words:

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”

That balance is your magic ticket to defeating those fears, dazzling your audience, and embracing the wild ride of artistic growth. So, go on, strike that balance and shine on, as the talented performer that you are!

If you are ready to challenge your speaking anxiety and begin to overcome your limiting beliefs, then let’s schedule a Free Coaching Call to explore how I might assist you. This is a no-charge opportunity for you to learn more about how it IS possible to manage and overcome the fears that holds you back.