Does it ever feel as though you are giving away little pieces of your life?

Maybe, without even realizing it, you have let fear, convenience, or a focus on another person’s opinion chip away, little by little, your self-confidence and belief in what you are capable of.

At first, maybe you simply said “Yes” to a request that, deep down, you knew wasn’t what you wanted, yet you rationalized to yourself, “Oh, it’s not that big of a deal.”

Or, when you came up with a great idea to push your business or life forward, you ended up anxiously listening to your inner voice that quietly said, “This really isn’t a good time, maybe I will try in the future.”

What about that time when you said “No” to an opportunity that was outside of your comfort zone, yet deep down you KNEW it would have benefited you?

Putting yourself, your ideas or your desires in front of the crowd can feel so scary, yet it is always during such times that opportunities can lead to the successes that can propel you to greater things.

Whether the opportunity is to create a webinar for your online audience that will introduce them to an amazing service or product that you offer, or assertively say “No” to something, or someone, that you know is not best for you, or create that book or piece of art that has been yearning to come out, becoming aware of and then changing your fear-based decisions, is crucial.

A piece of wood, when slowly chipped and whittled away, becomes weak and eventually breaks. It is no different in your own life when, over time, you give away pieces of who you are and what you desire.

Have you allowed that negative inner voice to trick you into not taking the risks and chances that have the potential to move you forward?

Are you dangerously close to ‘breaking’ and giving up your dreams and goals?

Today, I encourage you to consider in what areas of your business, creativie life or relationships that you may be giving yourself away.

Do not allow another day to go by without intentionally deciding to stop giving power away. Little by little, decision by decision, you will become stronger, more confident and, most importantly, in charge of yourself.

It is time to take your life back.

In this 3-part series, I have been sharing ideas on how you might begin to ‘refurnish’ the rooms in your mind with newer, more healthy pictures in order to remove the fear-inducing messages that have created roadblocks to the life you desire.

In Part 1, I presented the crucial importance of Awareness, becoming aware of the actual thoughts in your mind that you have simply accepted all your life as something that you must live with. The need to clearly notice what the negative pictures are that you ’see’ in your mind’s eye every day is the foundational step to refurnishing your thinking.

In Part 2, I discussed the idea of Acceptance, the 2^nd step in refurnishing your mind. After you become aware of how the old furnishings block you from achieving your current goals and dreams, it is then time to begin accepting and working towards letting go of the old pictures and distortions that have held you back.

The final step in your refurnishing plan is to begin to take Action – to replace the negative pictures with ones that are affirming and that lead to positive results rather than simply living life in fear and safety.

Here are 5 Key Steps that are required for you to move forward with a new, positive and more effective way of thinking:

1. Decide What Really Matters to You – What do you want? Do the pictures in your mind reflect this or do you need to replace them with clear and specific pictures of what you really want in life?

2. Adjust Your Expectations. It has been. Said that your expectations shape your reality! You either live Up to or Down to your expectations, so the new pictures that you hang in your mind must reflect thinking that expects great things, that is focused on a life, business or career that you intend to be successful.

“What you ‘see’ in your mind’s eye (in the pictures in the rooms of your mind),throughout the day and over weeks and months, tends to become who you are”. ~ Dr. Don Greene

3. Listen to Your Self-Talk. Is it positive or negative? Begin to see yourself as full of potential, as someone who, in spite of the old pictures and memories, is capable of amazing things.

4. Focus on Action. Take charge. Be willing to assert yourself. Take risks. Stop blaming the old pictures of events or persons if things don’t go the way you desire. Decide to make things happen by utilizing the power of CHOICE with 2 very powerful words: “I choose” vs. “That just the way I am.”

“The greatest single characteristic of those who achieve their goals is the simple ‘belief that you can do it’.” ~ Dr. Charles Garfield

5. Be Patient with the Process. Renewing your mind and refurnishing rooms that have been filled with outdated and distorted thinking takes time. Intentionally make daily commitments to decide what it is that you want and then take specific and clear steps to achieve your goals.

The process of letting go of and replacing the pictures in the rooms of your mind is possible and will lead to dramatic changes as you follow through with your remodeling plan.

As I shared earlier, hire a new room decorator if needed (a Mentor, Coach or Therapist) or commit to readings and courses that are geared towards a complete re-conditioning of your thinking.

Begin to take charge of your life today by hanging up new pictures that express an attitude and belief that says, “I no longer tolerate anything (or any mental picture) that holds me back.”

It’s time to begin refurnishing the rooms in your mind. Yes, you heard me correctly. It is possible, even after years and years of those rooms being cluttered with lies, distortions and anxiety-based fears, that you can decide to clear the rooms out and replace them with new furnishings and décor.

As I shared in my last Post, Part 1, the various rooms in your mind contain pictures that hang on the walls, pictures that you have hung that make significant statements, both positive and negative, and provide the memories that you have attached to each of them.

Unfortunately, many believe that they are ‘stuck’ with whatever the rooms are filled with, including old pictures of painful memories, or even newer ones that are hung to remind you not to venture out in life, or take new risks or develop new skills.

Some synonyms for refurnish are: remodel; recondition; refresh; renew; restore. Each of these words is based upon the activity of letting go of the old and replacing with new pictures that are more reflective of who you really are today.

The truth is that many, if not most, of the pictures that hang in the rooms in your mind were created and based upon lies about yourself that were either told to you by others or told to yourself during times of fear or anxiety.

Unless these old pictures are replaced through a ‘remodeling’ of your thinking, then the power of the old pictures, or thoughts, will continue to direct your life.

So, where do you begin with the process of refurnishing your mind?

Here are the first 2 steps in renewing and restoring your thinking: