If you have an upcoming job interview or a performance review, whether it is in-person or on a Zoom call, you probably are experiencing interview anxiety. We’ve all been there. But that pre-interview knot in your stomach doesn’t have to hold you back!

Here are 10 steps to transform interview anxiety into interview confidence:

1. Know Your Worth: Before you walk into the interview room, virtual or online, remind yourself of your skills and experience. List your accomplishments and rehearse how you’d express them to showcase your value to the company.
2. The Power of Preparation: Research the company, the position, and potential interview questions. The more prepared you are, the less anxiety will creep in. Practice your answers out loud – alone or with a friend – to refine your delivery.
3. Utilize the Mirror: Practice answering questions while looking in the mirror. This helps with nonverbal communication – eye contact, posture, and confident body language. Projecting confidence externally can trick your brain into feeling more confident internally.
4. Positive Self-Talk: Challenge those negative thoughts telling you you’ll mess up. Replace them with affirmations like “I am qualified” or “I am a strong communicator” or “I have earned a promotion.” Positive self-talk can be a powerful tool to combat interview anxiety. Listen for, and quiet, the “What if’s” with “I’ve got this.”
5. Breathe and Relax: Feeling overwhelmed? Take slow, deep focused breaths. Practice progressive muscle relaxation techniques to release tension. There are many guided relaxation apps and online resources available.
6. Dress for Success: Even though obvious, first impressions do matter! Dress professionally for the interview, in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable. Looking polished can boost your self-esteem and project a sense of competence.
7. Visualize Success: Imagine yourself delivering an excellent interview. Picture yourself answering questions thoughtfully, engaging with the interviewer, and feeling calm and collected. Visualization can prepare your mind for a positive interview experience. Click here for a free Visualization Guide.
8. Arrive Early: Avoid the added stress of rushing in last minute. Plan to arrive early so you can settle in, collect your thoughts, and take a few more calming breaths.
9. Focus on Connection: Interviews are a two-way street. While you want to make a good impression, remember you’re also evaluating the company culture and fit. Ask thoughtful questions about the role and the team.
10. Celebrate Every Step: Whether you land the job or not, celebrate your accomplishment of going through the interview process. Each interview is a learning experience that helps you refine your skills and build confidence for the next one.

Remember, interview anxiety is common, but it doesn’t have to control or define you. With these strategies and a positive mindset, you can approach your next interview with confidence and leave a lasting impression.

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Public speaking. Two words that can strike fear into the hearts of even the most confident individuals!

Does the thought of standing in front of an audience, all eyes on you, trigger a cascade of anxieties: “What if I mess up?” “What if they think I’m boring?” “What if they judge me?”

But here’s the truth: Most people in the audience aren’t there to dissect your every word and movement. They’re there for the information or experience you’re offering.

Let’s look at your fear of being judged and see how you can let go of the worry and then focus on delivering your message with confidence.

Others Are Not Focusing on Your Flaws:

Our brains play a trick on us. We tend to overestimate how much attention others are paying to our perceived flaws. This is called the “spotlight effect.” While you might feel like every stumble and stutter is magnified by the audience’s eye, they are likely more focused on their own thoughts and anxieties than picking apart your performance.

They Are for You (Not Against You):

The vast majority of people in your audience actually want you to succeed (and they are glad they aren’t the one speaking!). They’re there to learn something new, be entertained, or gain a different perspective. Their focus is on the content you’re presenting, not on finding ways to criticize you.

Everyone Makes Mistakes:

I’ve been there – the forgotten word, the fumbled note card, the technology glitch. The truth is, audiences are far more forgiving of minor mistakes than we tend to believe. In fact, a well-handled slip-up can even make you seem more relatable and human.

Shift Your Perspective:

Instead of fearing judgement, reframe your perspective. View yourself as a guide, an educator, or a storyteller sharing valuable insights with your audience. This shift in focus takes the pressure off you and allows you to connect with the audience on a deeper level.

Here’s how to re-focus your mindset:

High school reunions can definitely bring up a mix of emotions, from excitement to anxiety. As I shared in my last post, the fear of attending a school reunion often stems from a combination of social, emotional, and personal factors, but it’s important to remember that these concerns are normal and experienced by many individuals.

Here are ten tips to help manage any anxiety you might be feeling:

1. Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that everyone is in the same boat. People change, and high school was a long time ago. Don’t expect everything to be exactly as it was.
2. Focus on the Positive: Instead of dwelling on potential awkwardness or negative memories, think about the positive aspects of reconnecting with old friends and acquaintances.
3. Prepare Conversation Starters: Think of some topics or questions ahead of time to break the ice and keep the conversation flowing.
4. Remember That Everyone Has Moved On: Just like you, your classmates have likely grown and changed since high school. Any judgments or insecurities you feel are probably in your head.
5. Take Breaks When Needed: If you start feeling overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a break. Step outside for some fresh air or find a quiet corner to collect your thoughts.
6. Practice Focused Breathing: Days, or weeks, before your reunion, practice taking slow,deep focused breaths in order to slow down your anxiety during the reunion. Whenever you feel afraid and anxious, simply day a couple of deep breaths to calm yourself.
7. Practice Self-Compassion: Remind yourself that it’s okay to feel anxious. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would a friend in the same situation.
8. Focus on the Present: Try to stay present in the moment rather than getting caught up in worrying about the past or the future.
9. Set Boundaries: If there are certain people or topics that make you uncomfortable, it’s okay to politely steer the conversation elsewhere or excuse yourself from the conversation.
10. Have an Exit Strategy: If you find yourself feeling extremely overwhelmed, it’s okay to leave early. Have a plan in place so you can make a graceful exit if necessary.

Remember, high school reunions are meant to be fun and nostalgic experiences. Try to relax, enjoy yourself, and celebrate how far you’ve come since those high school days.

Thanks again for your support, and wishing you all the best!

Dr. Nick

P.S. If you are ready to challenge anxiety and stress and begin to live and perform on a new and more positive level, then let’s schedule a Free Conversation by Zoom to explore how I might assist you. This is a no-charge opportunity for you to learn more about how it IS possible to manage and overcome anxiety and panic.

I recently received an invitation to my High School Reunion (I won’t say what year I graduated, but let’s just say that when I told my daughter the year, she was astonished that it was so long ago, saying, “Wow, you are really old”)

As we head into Spring. it is going to also be that time soon for many of you.

High school reunions can definitely bring up a mix of emotions, from excitement to anxiety. The reality is that many people experience various fears or anxieties about attending their reunion. Here are common concerns that many have:

1. Fear of Judgment: Worries about how others will perceive them based on their achievements, appearance, or life choices since school.
2. Comparison: Comparing oneself to others in terms of success, relationships, or personal accomplishments, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy.
3. Social Anxiety: Feeling anxious about interacting with old classmates, especially if they were not close or had negative experiences with them in the past.
4. Memories of Bullying or Negative Experiences: Fear of encountering individuals who may have bullied or mistreated them during their school years, which can trigger painful memories or emotions.
5. Insecurity: Feeling insecure about one’s appearance, career, relationships, or life achievements compared to those of classmates.
6. Feeling Left Out or Unwelcome: Concerns about not fitting in or being accepted by old classmates, especially if they were not part of a popular social circle during school.
7. Pressure to Impress: Feeling pressure to appear successful, happy, or accomplished in front of former classmates, leading to stress or anxiety about living up to certain expectations.
8. Regrets or Unresolved Issues: Fear of confronting past regrets, unresolved conflicts, or unfulfilled aspirations, which may resurface during interactions with old acquaintances.
9. Awkwardness: Anticipating awkward conversations or interactions with people they haven’t seen in years, especially if there’s uncertainty about what to talk about or if they’ve changed significantly since school.
10. Fear of Change: Anxiety about how attending a reunion may disrupt their current life or routine, especially if they have moved on from their school years and are content with their current situation.

Overall, the fear of attending a school reunion often stems from a combination of social, emotional, and personal factors, but it’s important to remember that these concerns are normal and experienced by many individuals.

Next week, I will share ten tips to help manage any anxiety you might be feeling.

P.S. If you are ready to challenge anxiety and stress and begin to live and perform on a new and more positive level, then let’s schedule a Free Conversation to explore how I might assist you. This is a no-charge opportunity for you to learn more about how it IS possible to manage and overcome anxiety and panic.

Practicing mindfulness can be an effective way to manage anxiety on a daily basis. Here’s a simple mindfulness routine you can incorporate into your daily life:

• Morning Meditation: Start your day with a short meditation/prayer session. Find a quiet and comfortable spot where you won’t be disturbed. Sit or lie down with your back straight and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths to center yourself. Then, focus your attention on your breath as it flows in and out. Whenever your mind wanders, gently bring your focus back to your breath. Start with just a couple of minutes and gradually increase the duration as you feel more comfortable.

• Mindful Morning Routine: Bring mindfulness into your morning activities such as brushing your teeth, taking a shower, or making breakfast. Pay close attention to the sensations, smells, and sounds of each activity. Engage all your senses fully in the present moment.

This quote, from one of my absolute favorite authors and speakers Erwin McManus, is such a simple, yet powerful, reminder that it is not the actual thing we fear (public speaking, going on an audition or interview, asserting our self in a relationship) that creates the most anxiety, but rather it is our fear of what that thing might lead to that is our actual enemy (fear of rejection, feelings of shame, the terror of embarrassing our self in front of others, fear of being seen as not enough).

To overcome our fear of failure we must commit to becoming aware of and letting go of what truly limits us and weighs us down – statements such as “What if I am not accepted?…What if I I don’t get a call back from my audition?…What if they discover that I am an imposter?…What if others don’t like my art?”

The ‘failure’ of not being perfect in your speaking, performance or relationships in your life can be be overcome through learning from mentors/coaches and committing to improvement in those areas of your life.

Decide today to no longer run away from things that you might fail at and instead stop giving power to the fear and anxiety of failing.

Achieving your goals and dreams is built upon creating a mindset that gives you permission to take risks while at the same time saying goodbye to feelings of shame and anxious anticipation.

In my coaching with clients, I almost always hear the words “What if” as they share with me how they are always looking ahead with worry and anxious anticipation. “What if I get nervous speaking…What if no one buys my art…What if I look foolish at a social event…” and on and on.

This version of “What if” will kill off any chance of you experiencing the present moment, causing you to miss what opportunities are right in front of you by nervously living in the future in fear.

However, I wonder what life would look like for you if your version of “What if “sounded like this – “What if I pass the audition and get the part?…What if I am able to relax at the party and meet new friends…What if I learn to be present as I speak in front of others and feel more confident than ever before”?

Commit to the second version of “What if” and discover amazing new and positive results. How you talk to yourself makes all the difference in the world in terms of what your words will lead to.

How I can support you:

If you are ready to challenge your anxiety, begin to overcome your limiting beliefs and say “What if” with a new self-confidence, then let’s schedule a personal 1-1 Free Coaching Call to explore how I might assist you. This is a no-charge opportunity for you to learn more about how it IS possible to manage and overcome the fears that holds you back.