What do you want in your life? I mean, what do you REALLY want? Not what you wouldn’t mind having. Not what would be nice to have a bit more of. I am asking what do you really, really desire? In order to truly create an outrageous life, it is critical to answer this question without fear or doubt.

So, if you do not mind, let me ask you again. If you were fearless and deaf to your critical inner voice that is trying desperately to keep you safe, what would you really want – in your business, in your creative life, in your relationships, or in your performance? What matters to you?

In what ways will your life be different by choosing and pursuing outrageous dreams and goals? In what ways have you given up things that matter to you as a result of being afraid to stand up for what you desire and dream about?

Do you, for example, have a passion to finish your book, increase sales this year, improve your spiritual life, start your dream business, improve your golf game or present an incredible audition?

Deciding what is most important to you, and then committing to a decision to not let ANYTHING stand in your way, is the beginning step towards creating an outrageous life. The problem most of us have is that we settle. When we answer the question of “What do I want” it is usually a small, incremental and not very outrageous-like answer.

Ask yourself, “What do I want?” Then slow down, take a full, deep breath and ask yourself, “What, then, would I REALLY want?” Go deeper and deeper. Do not settle for simple, small and, what I call, ‘surface dreams.’ Be tough on yourself and go deeper than you ever have before. Listen for that voice of ‘safety’ that say things such as, “Who do you think you are wanting such amazing things? … Be careful, slow down!”

It wasn’t too many years ago that I heard myself saying, “I’m not a writer. Who am I kidding that could I author a book.” This was in spite of countless clients asking me to share what I had to offer through a book that they could take with them to continue their growth. Thank goodness I stopped listening to my doubting, negative voice!

We all fear being vulnerable to what life would be like if we venture too far out, if you purposely announce to yourself, as well as the world, “I am tired of playing it safe. I am ready to dig deep and go for what I truly want.”

Without a commitment to a big life, with big dreams and goals, we settle for being small, achieving occasional moments of happiness and perhaps even brilliance. Yet, we pull back, afraid, and keep our dreams simple and on the surface.

The clearer it is what you want, the easier it is to go for it. Use what you truly desire, on a deep level, as a motivator to put into action the attitude and skills necessary to achieve what you want in every area of your life.

“That’s good enough” will not do if you desire an outrageous, bold life.

Question: What is one of your specific goals that has been buried under fear and doubt? You can leave a comment by clicking the Comment box above.