
In this 3-part series, I have been sharing ideas on how you might begin to ‘refurnish’ the rooms in your mind with newer, more healthy pictures in order to remove the fear-inducing messages that have created roadblocks to the life you desire.
In Part 1, I presented the crucial importance of Awareness, becoming aware of the actual thoughts in your mind that you have simply accepted all your life as something that you must live with. The need to clearly notice what the negative pictures are that you ’see’ in your mind’s eye every day is the foundational step to refurnishing your thinking.
In Part 2, I discussed the idea of Acceptance, the 2nd step in refurnishing your mind. After you become aware of how the old furnishings block you from achieving your current goals and dreams, it is then time to begin accepting and working towards letting go of the old pictures and distortions that have held you back.
The final step in your refurnishing plan is to begin to take Action – to replace the negative pictures with ones that are affirming and that lead to positive results rather than simply living life in fear and safety.
Here are 5 Key Steps that are required for you to move forward with a new, positive and more effective way of thinking:
1. Decide What Really Matters to You – What do you want? Do the pictures in your mind reflect this or do you need to replace them with clear and specific pictures of what you really want in life?
2. Adjust Your Expectations. It has been. Said that your expectations shape your reality! You either live Up to or Down to your expectations, so the new pictures that you hang in your mind must reflect thinking that expects great things, that is focused on a life, business or career that you intend to be successful.
“What you ‘see’ in your mind’s eye (in the pictures in the rooms of your mind),throughout the day and over weeks and months, tends to become who you are”. ~ Dr. Don Greene
3. Listen to Your Self-Talk. Is it positive or negative? Begin to see yourself as full of potential, as someone who, in spite of the old pictures and memories, is capable of amazing things.
4. Focus on Action. Take charge. Be willing to assert yourself. Take risks. Stop blaming the old pictures of events or persons if things don’t go the way you desire. Decide to make things happen by utilizing the power of CHOICE with 2 very powerful words: “I choose” vs. “That just the way I am.”
“The greatest single characteristic of those who achieve their goals is the simple ‘belief that you can do it’.” ~ Dr. Charles Garfield
5. Be Patient with the Process. Renewing your mind and refurnishing rooms that have been filled with outdated and distorted thinking takes time. Intentionally make daily commitments to decide what it is that you want and then take specific and clear steps to achieve your goals.
The process
of letting go of and replacing the pictures in the rooms of your mind is
possible and will lead to dramatic changes as you follow through with
your remodeling plan.
As I shared earlier, hire a new room decorator if needed (a Mentor, Coach or Therapist) or commit to readings and courses that are geared towards a complete re-conditioning of your thinking.
Begin to take charge of your life today by hanging up new pictures that express an attitude and belief that says, “I no longer tolerate anything (or any mental picture) that holds me back.”
I hope that you are doing well as we go through this time of challenge together. It has been so amazing to watch those in my community, from places all around the world, share with me stories of struggle as well as amazing victories and breakthroughs.
As I have shared in a past post, there is so much power, especially during times such as this, in practicing intentional Focused Breathing. In all of my work with those who struggle with anxiety or stressful situations, I have found this exercise, when applied and practiced, incredibly effective in inducing a relaxed state in your mind and body.
In fact, research has proven that your heart rate, blood pressure, and even body temperature can be affected by how you breathe! This is certainly valuable while our minds race ahead and question what is to come and when life will get back to ‘normal.’
I have provided an audio of the Focused Breathing exercise that I use in some of my Courses and Coaching work and know that if you practice it throughout your day, it will benefit you like it has for so many that I have worked with.
There are no excuses for not taking advantage of this skill, as you are already breathing, it is free and only takes a couple of minutes to practice! I look forward to hearing how you have used the exercise.
Click on the image above, sit back and get ready for a deep feeling of relaxation!