Here are 10 words that we tell ourselves that ‘kill’ our dreams, aspirations and potential. Each day, as you say any of these words to yourself, you get closer and closer to killing off who you are and might become.
Life is not about finding yourself…
Life is about Creating yourself.”
E.W. Wilcox
Feelings Are SO Overrated (Part 2)
In my last Post I shared how we often put an enormous emphasis on our feelings, rather than focusing on whether our thoughts are self-defeating or moving us forward. Again, I am not saying that we should disregard our feelings (a la Mr. Spock in Star Trek whose main focus is summed up in the words “Seems logical to me, Captain”).
The key principle here is that if we do not take charge of what we tell ourselves, then our feelings will simply follow those thoughts, whether true or not.
“Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.” ~ Henry Ford
It might be a thought that begins innocently enough yet, when not challenged with the truth, takes you down a rabbit hole of self-doubt, discouragement and fear. I remember such as moment in high school.
The question isn’t who is going to let me;
it’s who is going to stop me.”
Ayn Rand
Feelings Are SO Overrated (Part 1)
In my work with hundreds of clients over 30 years of coaching and consulting I have discovered a startling fact – feelings are overrated! Now, I am not saying that feelings are not important, or desirable or real – I am saying that they are simply overrated in terms of the focus that we give to them.
My clients, for the most part, begin their coaching journey by describing what they ‘feel’ – “I am afraid, I am depressed, I want to feel more happy, I feel like a failure, I feel like nobody will ever desire me, I feel rejected, I would do anything to not feel this way.”
I listen and honor their sincerity and desire to experience something different in their lives.
Yet as I listen, I shift my focus to what they are thinking and are telling themselves about their situation and what they believe to be true about their life or the things that they fear the most.
Is it Time to Change Your Story?
Knowing what you want goes hand in hand with knowing who you are. In fact, it is impossible to become an outrageous achiever in any area unless you possess an effective and powerful answer to both questions.
In a recent blog post I discussed the importance of discovering what you really desire in your life and then committing to a specific plan of action to get you there.
What could possibly stand in your way?
Well, look in the mirror and you will see your biggest enemy staring right back at you, telling you their story about why life is so tough, or how they have always failed, or how they are just not enough to become more successful.
The story you hear implies that maybe you don’t have what it takes to achieve your dreams.
If you stumble,
make it part of the dance.”
Anonymous