You would think that as a Psychologist I must be an amazing listener, especially at home. Well, please don’t ask my wife or family … The truth is, listening doesn’t come very naturally to me – I love to be the one talking!
In fact, most people would describe listening as a ‘passive’ process of sitting back and letting the other person talk until you finally have a chance to say something!
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Do one thing every day that scares you.”
What would happen to your business, project or performance, if you could create a perspective that would lead to powerful and amazing results?
I know an artist. Not just any artist. An amazing artist. Oh, and she happens to be my wife, Ramona. She has an eye for what works and what doesn’t.
I watch her in her studio as she takes a blank canvas and, over time, transforms it into something magical. (VictorianNoel.com) After what seems to be a zillion hours of work, she shows me what I believe is the final piece. I tell her it’s time to put it out to the world so others can share in its magic.
Instead, I hear these words, “It’s not finished yet. I need to put it in a frame.” So, I offer to run to the art store to quickly grab a frame for her latest piece. “No,” she says,
“Picking the right frame makes all of the difference in the world.”
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I will tell you, I came to live out LOUD.” ~ Émile Zola
My daughter recently brought home her University yearbook and on the cover, embossed in wild, bright colors, were the words, ‘Live Loud.’
I loved it! She was being encouraged to not just have a life, but to live it LOUD – emphatically, boldly, not concealed or quiet but overtly and with undeniable purpose and passion.
“Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Imagine these scenarios:
~ You are getting ready to speak in front of a large crowd and are feeling anxious.
~ The big interview (or audition) that means so much to your career is coming up.
~ The performance that you have been rehearsing for hours on end is here.
~ You are about to take a big risk in terms of a new a creative project.
When you are stressed, anxious or just flat out scared, what happens to your breathing? Do you relax and breathe like a baby? Probably not!
Rejection is a mental concept. It doesn’t really exist. One can feel rejected, but one cannot be rejected. And one can only feel rejected by making up a story of rejection to attach to an innocent, neutral event.”
I am getting ready to head out on a Cruise with my wife to celebrate our 30th Wedding Anniversary. I thought I would post a fun clip of an introduction to a presentation I did as a speaker on a Cruise to Bermuda 4 years ago. It’s fun and a way to get me ready for my trip. I hope you enjoy it!
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