The holiday season is upon us, yet, for so many, that means becoming stressed and even anxious when in social situations. Instead of it being a time of joy, just being around others can lead to anxious moments and even avoidance of events and opportunities. The desire to feel accepted while staying present in the moment can conflict with the fear of doing and saying just the right thing.

The following strategies have helped me over the years to manage and overcome holiday stress and social anxiety. Whether it’s participating in holiday activities, being around crowds in the mall or while at a stressful family gathering, these ten tips can help you can navigate social situations more comfortably and with less anxiety.

1. Set Realistic Goals: Instead of aiming for perfection, set achievable goals for social interactions. Celebrate small victories, like initiating a conversation or speaking up in a group, to boost confidence gradually.

2. Practice Positive Self-Talk: Challenge negative thoughts. Quiet your inner, critical self-talk. Replace anxious thoughts with more rational and positive ones. Remind yourself of past successes and focus on your strengths.

3. Breathe and Relax: Practice deep breathing or mindfulness exercises to calm your mind. These techniques can help regulate your body’s response to anxiety, making it easier to cope in social settings.

4. Start Small: Gradually expose yourself to the situations that make you anxious. Begin with less intimidating opportunities and work your way up. This gradual exposure helps build confidence over time.

5. Know What Triggers You: Identifying what triggers your anxiety is the first step. Is it large crowds, one-on-one conversations, or specific social events? Understanding these triggers can help you prepare and gradually desensitize yourself to them.

6. Surround Yourself with Support: Don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, an anxiety coach or a therapist. Talking about your feelings and experiences can provide valuable perspective and emotional support.

7. Practice Preparation: Prepare for social situations in advance. If you’re anxious about a specific event, rehearse and visualize what you might say or do. Having a plan can ease anxiety and increase your confidence.

8. Focus Outside of Yourself: Shift the focus from your internal worries to the people or environment around you. Engage in active listening, ask questions, and show genuine interest in others. This helps redirect attention away from anxious thoughts.

9. Accept Imperfection: Accept that nobody is perfect, and social interactions don’t always go as planned. Learn from each experience, even if it feels uncomfortable. Embrace the learning process.

10. Celebrate Your Progress: Acknowledge and celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Overcoming social anxiety is a journey, and every step forward is a significant achievement. Reward yourself for facing your fears.

Remember, progress is not always in a straight line. There will be ups and downs. The goal, however, is to commit to doing things differently this Holiday season.

There might even be setbacks, and that’s okay. Overcoming social anxiety takes time, but with persistence and the right strategies, you can build confidence and find greater ease in social situations.

If these tips feel overwhelming, start with just one or two that resonate with you the most. Small steps can lead to significant changes in managing social anxiety. You’re not alone in this journey, and there’s always help available whenever you need it.

So many of my coaching clients who only last year were anxious and scared at socializing share with me now how they continue to feel less anxious and are looking forward to enjoying time with others more than before.

Let’s all commit to making this Holiday season one in which we do things just a little bit differently.

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